Hi Grady, what actually happened here was someone posted his own similar question in your thread.
It is unfortunate that manufacturers don't always think like you and I do, and product is often rushed to market to compete with other manufacturers.
I use my handheld (a Dell Axim) as a handheld in it's own right - PDA (contact list, mobile dB, but no email) + survey tool, and not as an extension to anything, primarily because of a lack of mobile connectivity in the third world country that I reside in.
It syncs (wirelessly) with my desktop purely to backup it's contents, and that has worked flawlessly, probably because the network in my home office is setup in a true network fashion, with DHCP/DNS/AD server, firewall, etc., for no other reason than that's what I do for a living - I'm a network consultant.
My experience syncing the handheld with a laptop over an adhoc wireless network was as a result of a purely academic exercise, so to speak, a "how does this work"
I would think that what you want to achieve can be done by perodically syncing the PDA to the laptop, which I don't see as being a major issue depending on the nature of the available wireless network. A corporate wireless LAN in the office with both devices connected should be a "piece of cake", an adhoc wireless LAN with just the laptop & the PDA is just slightly more complicated, but tring to sync remotely from a hotspot outside of your office, would be more challenging, since it would involve VPN tunnels (for security).